Sunday, April 5, 2015

Reluctant Celebrity

Who me?  No, I'm nobody.

Well, I'm somebody.  I am Ev Reheard.  Every Heard.

I am a singer/songwriter, artist, accidental comedian... Writer, speech pathologist, Reiki master... Too many titles.  What I really am is LUCKY.

Within four years of stumbling upon an open mic for the first time; I began writing original music, learning to play a guitar, and meeting my role models.

Three years ago, I fell into a hopeless relationship with a collegiate musician.  Combing through his vinyl, I fell in love with the sound and stories of the Tedeschi Trucks Band... Susan Tedeschi's voice, Derek Trucks' guitar, the ensemble's collaboration.  I raveled my life chapters around every lyric and rhythm.  It was my anthem.

Of course, Revelator does not need my praise.  It won a Grammy!  It is an incredible first album of a husband and wife who merged their two bands to form one incomparable music force.

Susan Tedeschi was the only white woman I knew who could sing with so much soul AND shred guitar solos as well as any man.  She quickly became my newest role model.

FAST FORWARD

Two years ago, I checked myself into a hospital to seek treatment for depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation.  Realizing my music and writing were the only things that made life worth living, I began the long process of rearranging my life around this artistic purpose.

It was not an easy decision, and it did not happen all at once.  It is still happening...

Finding little optimistic literature about my diagnosis, I started blogging my experiences, living with borderline personality disorder.  I was comforted and encouraged by social media friends who sent me their stories in confidence.  During a particularly challenging month, between apartments, I even couch surfed through many of their homes.  It was like my own exclusive, door-to-door tour.

I tried to ignore the whispers in my mind, telling me to quit my stable day-job as a speech therapist.  I was unprepared, and I did not have a plan.  But something told me change was coming...

ORGANIZATION

From early on as a musician, I realized the importance of finding female friends.  Ladies were the minority in music circles, and I had a knack for being seduced into dead-end heart breaks and aches.  While they were great fodder for songwriting, they were devastating for my psyche.  It was female friends who kept me from killing myself at the lowest moments, who reminded me they had survived similar and worse experiences.

aMUSEment EVents was born out of this need and became a female artist collective.  I threw networking parties exclusively for ladies; where we could cook, eat, drink, and feel complete freedom to perform and express ourselves... Every time, a miraculous atmosphere of inspiration enveloped us.  It was a unique and addictive vibe that I was eager to recreate and spread.  As I watched our members move to other parts of the country, I realized our potential to have chapters in other cities.

I wanted to share that sense of community and nurturing with EVERYONE- especially my less privileged neighbors who I met giving speech therapy in low income parts of Philly.

...By the time my career aspirations began changing, everyone was advising me to form a nonprofit.  I asked around, acquired the paperwork, and thought.  The process itself would cost almost $1000 and take months.

Having already attempted (and failed) to gather the necessary resources and volunteers to coordinate a community wellness day with live music, I understood my goals could not be achieved alone.  I did not need to reinvent the wheel.  I made up my mind to avoid forming a new nonprofit.  Instead I contacted existing organizations and asked them to adopt aMUSEment EVents.

This was fruitless for months... and meanwhile the little whisper in my mind had increased to a volume I could no longer ignore- I quit my job.

I started preparing myself for 2015; Give up drinking, give up meat; start living in alignment with your purpose.

An unlikely source of motivation came from a Facebook friend's post: "If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you say in only two words?"

Thinking back on my education, my relationships, my mental health; I could not wish away any of my growth and discovery.  I found my new mantra:

KEEP GOING

December 3, 2014, I was hosting my open mic at Connie's Ric Rac, enjoying what was going to be one of my last big nights to get drunk (and insuring a massive hang over to haunt me for all of 2015), when a stranger walked in with a saxophone case.

In my drunken delirium, it was a cinematic moment.  I was on stage, pushing the crowd to cheer on a random jam band that had suddenly caught the muse.  That was when I saw him wander in, "You!"  I pointed, "Is that a sax on your back?"

"Me?"  He looked around.

"Yeah, you... Get it out and get on stage!" I grinned.  Horns were always a crowd pleaser and exactly what this jam band needed.

He quickly obliged, like a pro... Because, little did I know, he was a professional.  He was Kebbi Williams.

"I'm playing at the Keswick with... " he shrugged, "You probably never heard of us."

"Probably not.  I never know the names people drop."

"Tedeschi Trucks Band-"

I touched his arm, as my jaw lay dropped in shock, unable to speak for a moment... "That is my favorite band."

"Oh yeah?  You should come to the show."

"Ha,"  I thought of my piling bills, my lack of employment, "I can't afford tickets.  I would absolutely love to-- I adore Susan Tedeschi, but-"

Kebbi grinned, "This is happening."


CONNECTIONS

Within twelve hours, I was shaking hands with Susan Tedeschi, meeting all of the wonderful players in the band... For three glorious nights, I watched them rehearse and play at the Keswick Theater; living my fantasy, dreaming awake.

Between sound checks and shows, Kebbi wanted to see more of what Philadelphia had to offer.  He enjoyed fresh foods at Reading Terminal Market, Di Bruno Bros, and a real Philly cheese steak at Pat's.  But more than tourist attractions, he wanted to find diversity and music.  We went to a community center, a dance class; Kebbi sat in on a drum circle and played sax at Chris's Jazz Cafe and Time.

I could not believe my good fortune!  Not only was he in my favorite band; another coincidence: Kebbi had a nonprofit!  He started Music in the Park ATL (MITP) five years ago to create the same receptive atmosphere I had found through aMUSEment EVents.

With his connections, he is able to book world renowned artists.  Once a year, he and his team organize a day festival where Atlanta students are given the opportunity to play alongside professionals, as the neighborhood joins in to enjoy the creative celebration.  With the help of fundraising, Kebbi keeps the festivities FREE for everyone to attend.  Last year (2014), there were over 16,000 people!  This year MITP continues a partnership with Atlanta Streets Alive to also include a drumline competition, dance instruction, and a parade.

We discussed our visions and realized they were aligned.  We saw music bringing people together, engaging them as a community-- How we could use performances as opportunities to encourage healthy and mindful choices...

During his time home from tour, he visits schools and works to insure the performing arts are being included in education.  He is the living example of how far music can take kids- Around the world and back!
I explained how music was a source of healing to me; How it had helped me through my arduous mental health journey.  Playing him songs that were the product of coping through music, I explained my passion to make an impact on communities-- to help people communicate on larger scale!


This is how aMUSEment EVents partnered with Music in the Park.
Soon I was working remotely with the MITP team in Atlanta.  It was thrilling to be welcomed into a crew of capable organizers!  -I found the "wheel" already invented, functioning with 501(3)(c) status, just as I had hoped!  I jumped in, feet first, ready to contribute!

It is Atlanta for now, but there are plans... BIG PLANS.  Like aMUSEment EVents, MITP can not be confined to any one location.  The need is everywhere!  The performing arts are a valuable form of expression for people of all ages, cultures, and socio-economic statuses!  ...After the 5th annual, Music in the Park festival, April 19th; That is when the real work will begin!  Grant writing, formalizing a business plan, organizing more educational assemblies and creating jobs for artists!

GRATITUDE

While I thank the psychiatric and psychological professionals for saving me from death, I owe my life to creativity!  Less than a year ago, I was still listening to the Tedeschi Trucks Band on vinyl; now they are making one of our most important fundraisers possible!

For our most important fundraiser, supporters and patrons are offered the chance to win 2 free tickets to the Tedeschi Trucks Band 2015 concert of their choice with backstage passes and a $1000 VISA travel voucher!

Raffle tickets can be purchased on their website:
http://www.tedeschitrucksband.com/news/support-music-in-the-park

$10/ticket or $100/11 tickets

The winner will be chosen at our April 19th event. However attendance is NOT required. ANYONE,  ANYWHERE can win!

All proceeds benefit Music in the Park ATL and enable us to continue our endeavors to enrich communities with music, dance, and cultural diversity.  We will broaden the educational and expressive horizons of children and adults alike with every resource we receive!


Kebbi may be a member of the Tedeschi Trucks Band, but he is also one of the most humble people I have ever met.

"I'm not famous.  Derek and Susan are famous," he tells me.  "Music in the Park isn't about me.  It's about the kids, about music.  It doesn't need me.  It's bigger than that!"

Nevertheless, the reluctant celebrity is a Grammy winner now.  He wants to use this title for Music in the Park's virtuous mission, without "tooting his own horn".  So, I will toot for him!

Music in the Park is about good people doing a good thing for as many people who will participate as possible.  Not long ago, I barely found a reason to live... and now I am thriving with purpose for this more than worthy cause.  If you feel passionately about keeping the performing arts alive and available to everyone, this is your opportunity to help!   Thank you ^^

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Lather Hair Studios 2015 Locks of Love Benefit Post-Event Re-Cap


We had an incredible day at Lather Hair Studios (http://www.latherhairstudio.com/)!  We had 8 ponytail donors, including one regular Lather client who was unaware of the donation drive until she showed up and decided to cut the extra length in order to participate.

Our first donor was singer/songwriter and vocal instructor, Sara B Simpson .  Sara has been giving since she was 16, and in that time has donated 6 times!  Besides being a repeat giver, she also has such full hair that her donations are usually two or three ponytails rather than one.  Sara proudly calls herself a "hair-farmer".  

Next, our friend Damian Driscoll saw our ad on Facebook and traveled all the way from Hatboro to say goodbye to the ponytail he had been growing for 3 years!  He explained he has been looking for work, and he hopes that the new do will help him make the right impression at future interviews.  After chopping his pure white ponytail, Lather stylist, Dierdra Davis shaved his head free of charge to help him look professional.  We were thrilled to have a man accept the Locks of Love challenge!

Monica Lynne Chase of the Bosom Band gave up her full mane of wild colors to stylist, Abbey Dernoga.  Monica explained that she has not made a big cut since she started her fight with cancer...
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"In 2008 I was diagnosed with Melanoma. I started chemo-therapy in 2009 and had my first tumor removed. I had to then have 4 more tumors removed and my lymph nodes taken from my breasts and armpits. I started with Dacarbazine which was given as an injection in a vein over a 20-minute period every 2 weeks for 6 months. Then I continued systemic therapy and had to change my diet and swithed to taking pill form: Temozolomide and Minocycline, which is a tetracycline antibiotic that fights bacteria in the body. I lost my hair in clumps and the top portion thinned out....so I got an under cut shave and cut similar to the one yesterday. I stayed on Minocycline for 3 years and went from Dr. appointments every 2 weeks to once a month and now I'm on systemic skin and tissue checks every 4 months, (my son Richard and I have the same appointment every 4 months, he is drug free) I am still taking Minocycline and have to take up to 100 mg of Acidophilus a day for my GI track (it was pretty much destroyed by the chemo. Also my hair grows in different colors and textures in clumps where the hair fell out or thinned out. *as my stylist saw yesterday* (red, blonde, black, brown, curly, wavy, and straight) fun stuff!"

Abbey gave her the chic look Monica had hoped for, shaving the bottom half of her head and giving her lots of asymmetrical layers on top to hang over the left side of her face. From the left she looks glamour, from the right punk rock; just as she wanted.

As for me, I got to spend time with owner, Dena Miranda and photographer, Lisa Schaffer (who volunteered her services for the day). They helped me mentally prepare for my first off-the-shoulder cut EVER. I wrote about why I never cut my hair in my blog: http://echovictory.blogspot.com/2015/01/so-long-hair.html -The cliff notes are- My mother started her childhood in a Buddhist temple with a shaved head. I grew up VERY feeling attached to my long hair! Surrounded by friends, I said farewell to my old strands, making way for new growth.

Alanna Blitz showed up for a regularly scheduled appointment to see the pile of ponytails and asked to participate! Alanna remarked that her husband of only two years would be surprised when she went home to Collingswood, NJ, but she was happy to keep him guessing now that they are no longer newly weds.

Another late comer, Courtney, daughter of Kirstin Brug gave her hair to Locks of Love! Kirstin is yet another singer-songwriter, as well as a female Philadelphia business owner (www.karmadiva.com eco-friendly cleaning services). Thank you for bringing your daughter in for a trim!

We also had guests Christina Henck of Henck Design (http://www.henckdesign.com/) who is Lather's interior designer and Shahid Rana, Executive Director of the Fairmont CDC (http://fairmountcdc.org/).

We look forward to seeing what community improvements will result from this new collaboration between the Fairmount CDC and Lather Hair Studio!

Special thanks go out to our photographer extraordinaire, Lisa Schaffer 
https://www.facebook.com/LisaSchafferPhotography
http://www.skylerbug.com/

This Locks of Love event coordinated by aMUSEment EVents (www.amusementevents.org)