Sunday, August 3, 2014

An Unfinished Letter to my Cousin... January 2009

Billy Jo,
Happy belated holidays!  Hope you and your family are doing well… Don’t worry about not being in touch.  You have good reasons- for which you have my sympathy.  I have the advantage of being responsible only for myself (and I don’t always do a good job of that- So, I don’t know how you do it all!)  You little girl is growing up quickly!  Thank you for the pictures.  She’s as adorable as ever!
I might graduate in May… IF I get 183 hour the necessary experience at my new hospital practicum… and IF I pass my comp exams (that prove I learned everything they taught), then I will graduate in May instead of in July.  It will be a lot of work, but if I graduate early, it’ll be worth the brief discomfort… I’ll be catching a train every morning at 6:17 AM.  My internal clock is going to require some serious resetting.

On the bright side, I’ll get to wear scrubs every day… So, I won’t have to worry about dry-cleaning or ironing or even matching!  At my other practicum, I wasn’t even supposed to wear sneakers.
(sigh)  It’s upsetting that after I was assigned to this hospital, I decided to move- effectively doubling my daily commute, from 30 minutes to an hour.  This is unfortunate, but I’m really happy with my new apartment.  It’s in an old garden style building in Ardmore (where people who work in the city seem to live, if they have money).  The train station is only a five minute walk away.  Then it’s a 20 minute ride into the city of Philadelphia… From there, I transfer to another train and ride north thirty minutes.  The remaining mile is either an uphill walk or a bus ride, depending upon the weather.

I was feeling stifled in my tiny studio… and MB, well, the bad news is that his family’s business crumbled, again.  The good news is that he has decided to go to college.  This was why we found an apartment close to the city but also not far from his father’s house.  In fact, his little sisters go to school a train stop away… It’s fun having them around.  It is the first time I have played big sister.
Anyway, now we are sharing this place… something we agreed that we were planning to do eventually.  So, we just moved the timeline along a little faster.  It really wasn’t because we wanted our relationship to be more serious.  I didn’t mean to move in with MB for convenience or to be frugal, but I think those are just unintended benefits… MB is my best friend as well as my boyfriend, and that helps a lot.

Today was my hospital orientation.  They made us sit through four hours of safety videos.  Ugh!  It’s interesting that I thought I’d be the only student there, but instead there were two other girls from other schools as well.  My supervisor works from 7 AM to 6 PM, and she’s says she doesn’t take a lunch.  So, it’s up to me to “stay fed”.  It should be an interesting few months.

I’m very tired and low on patience.  I just barely missed a train that would’ve gotten me home an hour earlier… But MB’s cooking dinner right now in our lovely little apartment.  It’s going to be wonderful to come home to that instead of my crumby empty studio, even if it was thirty minutes closer.  It’s so nice to be with someone who takes care of me as much as I do him.

We’re looking at the local community colleges for him.  He’ll start in the summer.  He’s very worried about classes- as he hasn’t had any since high school –and then he wasn’t a very good student.  But I’m confident he’ll succeed if he just tries (instead of opting to pursue some business venture his father cooks up, thinking it’ll make him money faster- which seems to have been the plan many times up until now.)

But his dad has been supportive, thanking me for MB’s new plan and telling me he knows MB wouldn’t be going to college without me—I’m sure he has good intentions, but I’ll believe it when I see it.  His dad has been burned in business enough times to figure out his sons are the only reliable partners he can trust.  He expects MB to do so many errands; chauffeuring him to and from the airport, fixing his stepmother’s car, helping with his step-sisters… What about when MB has a class?  Will MB tell him no?
I like MB’s family, but MB… feels more obligation to them than I do to my family.  I want a partner who makes himself and me his priorities, but this may be a process for him.  I think it will be easier when his sisters aren’t children anymore… I hope.

Anyway, life has been moving so quickly these past few months.  It’s been good.  I get anxious once in a while, but I don’t get anxiety or depressed.  I’m going to be crazy busy.  I won’t have any time to work at a part time job, but maybe I can graduate early and get an SLP job sooner- that would be amazing!

It hasn’t even been two weeks that MB and I have been living together, but already we’re noticing that we have more petty confrontations.  I told him that I didn’t say anything about how he kept his apartment because it was his, not ours.  It’s the little things; I had laundry and asked him for his before I did the wash.  Then as I was folding, all his socks were little wet balls.  Well, he likes to wait until he’s putting them into the machine before unrolling them…


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